Honoring Motherly Figures

Latinitas Austin - Parent and Daughter Workshop

Latinitas Austin – Parent and Daughter Workshop

Mother’s Day is the day you go above and beyond to support, spoil, and go over the top to find the perfect gift for your mom. You tell your mom you love her, you tell her things you don’t tell her every day, the same things, year after year. For some people, this is an exciting and a happy day, but for others, it’s a bittersweet feeling. For some, a motherly figure is sometimes not even a woman.

Some girls experience the love of a mother for a temporary amount of time and only have one person to look up to. “I still have a mother, but she left when I was only 8 years old. I have siblings, but they all live in different cities and I’m not as close to them. They’re much older than I am, and it’s only my dad and I. When it’s Mother’s Day, I don’t feel mad, but I also don’t feel happy. I sometimes do feel sad, because I really have no feminine guidance or help,” said Stephanie, 23. She grew up on her own, went through a girl’s passage to a lady on her own, with no one but her dad to look up to.

“But I love my dad, and he goes beyond what I ask for him, only to make sure I’m well. I wouldn’t trade him for anything or anyone, he might not be my mom, but he’s much more; he’s both parents,” Stephanie added. Although she no longer has her mother, she still feels secure and happy with her own motherly figure, her father.

Even though Stephanie went through harsh times, she always knew she could count on her dad, and doesn’t hold grudges against her mom for not being there. She considers her dad as both parents because he has been trying to play both roles throughout her life.

Other girls have experienced a great loss of their mother, but still feel close despite her passing. “I lost my mom 2 years ago. I loved her with all my heart, and it completely destroyed me when she left, but I know she’s in a happier place now. When Mother’s Day comes, I don’t feel sad. My family and I still wish her a happy Mother’s Day, and we still appreciate everything she ever did for us,” said Maria, 19. Although Maria lost her mom when she was 17 years old, she still takes flowers to her mom, she still talks to her, and she knows her mother is watching out and taking care of her.

“Before I go to bed I like to talk to her about my day. I ask her for help when I need it, and sometimes I even feel her hugging me when I’m sad,” Maria added. She knows she isn’t physically with her anymore, but even then they still have a close relationship. Maria still thinks her mom is with her, even if it is only by spirit, because she feels a strong bond that unites her and her mom.

While certain girls have the privilege to have been raised by their own mother, some didn’t get the chance to ever meet their own mother. “I never met my mother. I’ve seen her in pictures though, and she was beautiful. I was raised by my grandma, and I consider her my mother. I know she’s always there if I need anything. During Mother’s Day, I celebrate my grandmother, even with her age, she took me in and gave me everything and much more, even when she couldn’t. I look up to her, she is my motherly figure,” said Andrea, 20.

We all have different stories, some are similar, but none are the same. A mother is irreplaceable, and some play the role wonderfully. Even though some people have gone through roller coasters of feelings, they always have that one person to look up to when they’re feeling down. Make sure you say thank you, not just during Mother’s Day, and show them how much you appreciate what they do for you, a mother, a father, your own motherly figure.

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