Advice: A Familia without Drama

1. My mom and I fight constantly. She rarely lets me go out and I get good grades and don’t get into trouble, but she still doesn’t trust me. What should I do so I can have more freedom?

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Set a time to talk through it with her.  Ask her what you can do to show her that she can trust you with more freedom.  Sometimes parents just have a hard time letting go and accepting the fact that their child is growing up and are becoming more independent.  Let her know that you still love her and will always be her little girl, but that you also want independence.  Good luck!


2. My mom and I don’t get along very well. I feel like she treats my sister a lot nicer than me. I’m the middle child, but she is lenient with my older and younger sisters. She will let them go out to the movies and hang out with friends, but gets mad when I ask.

I am the middle child, too. So, I can relate a little bit.  Communication is really important.  Sometimes it can be difficult, but politely ask her why you can’t go out and your sisters can.  It is important to be respectful because once you start raising your voice things can get messy.  It might seem like she treats them nicer, but you have to be honest with her and let her know that it hurts your feelings that she gets mad when you want to go out. She might not see or agree that she is treating her daughters differently, but there is an explanation for everything, just hear her out.

3. My sisters and I are always fighting. When the fights get really bad and we say really mean things, my mom gets more hurt than mad. My mom always says “what you do to her you do to me.” Why does she say that, if I’m only mean to my sister? How can I improve my relationship with my sister? 

Parents don’t like it when their children fight.  You are a family and your mother loves you and your sister.  She does not want to see you hurt each other and so when you say mean things to each other she probably feels it too.  If your feelings are hurt, her feelings are hurt too.  Talk it out with your sister.  Why are you two always fighting?  All siblings fight at times but it is important to realize that your fighting is hurting your mother and hurting your relationship with your sister.  Try talking it out with her and see what you both can do to get closer and fix things.

Preguntale a Julianna: Advice About Boys

Question: There is this boy I really like at school. I want to tell him I like him, but I’m scared he might not like me. What do I do?

Advice: How will the boy ever know how you feel about him if you don’t tell him? Don’t be afraid of what the answer may be. Tell him about your feelings towards him. Who knows? Maybe his response will be exactly what you are hoping for. If it isn’t, don’t sweat it! There are plenty of fish in the sea. The important thing is that you express your feelings.

Question: I really like this boy that lives in my neighborhood. His name is Pablo. What should I do???

Advice: You can ask him if he would like to hang out after school or during the weekend. You can say, “Hey since we live in the same neighborhood, would you like to hang out sometime?” It would be a great way to get him to notice you and a way to get to know him. Good Luck!

Question: I like this boy. I talk to him when my mom is not watching. She says not to talk to him. It’s just talking on the phone!!! What should I do so I could talk to him?

Advice: You should talk to your mom. Ask her why she doesn’t want you to talk to him. After hearing her answer, tell her about him. Share with her what kind of personality he has and why you like talking to him. Hopefully, she will see why you insist on talking to him over the phone and will allow you to continue talking to him.