Mothers come in all shapes, sizes and personalities. Some go through a rough childhood, only to overcome terrible obstacles and raise their daughters in a harmonious household. Their daughter’s childhood is not affected by what these mothers went through. These mothers are the women that young girls call mamí. In this sense, young girls consider these women as the most inspirational person they hope to become.
Pastora Martinez of Los Angeles, California says, “I would describe my mom as a strong woman, no matter what she goes through.”
Martinez explains, “She is always there for me always. She tells me to keep away from trouble … and always talks to me.”
“Now that I am older she gives me more advice and I continue to show her my [gratitude] by showing her how good of a person I am.”
Martinez’s mother, Claudia Eva Martinez, says, “My daughter is someone special. While some girls would like to be out on the streets, she waits until I am home to preguntar me about leaving the house with her friends.”
One of the similarities between Pastora’s mother and countless other girls is the fact that these mothers’ always have the best intentions for their daughters.
Priscilla Marie Gonzales of California explains her relationship with her mamí because her mother, like her, understood empathy. She says, “My mom lost her mother as a young child. She was beaten every day by her step-mom. My dad always turned his cheek to what she went through.” One thing is certain, a mother does not need a man to complete her.
“My dad would beat my mom, while she was pregnant with me,” shares Marie Gonzalez.
Gonzalez refuses to term her mother as a victim, instead she says, “My mom is an inspiration. My mom graduated from high school even while she was pregnant with me. Lots of family troubles also surrounded her, but like her, I take education very seriously. She completed her [high school degree] and got a medical degree later.”
“If she did it, so could I.”
According to the US Labor Statistics, between 1980 and 2008, an increase of single parent households due to a divorce rate, grew by a 2.7 fold. The estimated numbers for one parent households in 2013 is expected to increase by triple. A one parent home is nothing new to Marie-Gonzalez. She says, “My mom is the only one I have. She’s become a mother and father to me. She supports me on all of my decisions.”
“She’s taught me so much. Because of her I see life from a different perspective. I love my mom. She is my life,” says Marie Gonzalez.
Michelle Nerio from Palmdel, CA says, “I am very close to my mother. I could tell her anything.”
You too can become close to your mother by keeping three simple rules for a rewarding relationship.
1. A mami cares for you unconditionally. She will scold you because she cares. She will do it with the best intentions on her part.
2. She will discipline you according to her expectations. For example, a mother often takes a child’s recreational time from bad acquaintances in order to steer her child away from potential harm. These sometimes include social networking sites. This is in part to keep a girl safe from the dangers of internet pedophiles or malicious students.
3. Last of all, “a mother is a hero if there is a possibility to tell each other everything,” Nerio says.
She shares,“If you are able to agree on things and trust each other and each other’s secrets, then your mother is second to none. My mom is a strong woman, she is encouraging. She gives me positive affirmations and she tells me to keep my head up high. So I never give up and I dream big.
Mothers often inspire young girls by instilling confidence in them. Nerio says, “I love my mother so much. I give her so many thanks for everything. I am proud to call her my mamí.”