My best friend is pregnant and she wants to practice an abortion. She’s 16 and I don’t know how to help her because I think a baby is gift from God. She’s my friend but it’s against my belief, what do I do?
“Of course, if she’s your best friend you usually support her, but if you’re a real friend then you help her and make her change her decision. I am totally against it because you are killing a human. You created it, you made the mistake, and you need to learn from it. Also, there are other options like adoption. That’s great because at least the baby gets to live. God brought him/her for a reason. If no one is there for her support, support her in many ways that you can. Of course, everyone will be judging, but you have to look at the positive side and be happy. Help her change her mind because it’s not worth killing your own child.” – Jocelyn, 17
“It is important that you are supportive of your friend during this difficult time. However, you must also remember that she is panicking and has very tough choices to make. Abortion certainly seems like an easy way out of the problem, but you must educate your friend on this decision. The library has many great resources on the physical and psychological dangers of abortion. I suggest finding some resources to show her the pros and cons of abortion. There are also clinics that one may go to for more information on pregnancy. Remind your friend that there are other options to abortion. A great alternative is adoption. Many couples would love to have a baby but cannot conceive. If your friend gives up her baby to adoption, she will be helping both the couple and the baby. I also suggest speaking to a trusted adult in your community. It is very possible that your friend is seeking an abortion because she feels very alone and does not want to jeopardize her future. However, talking to a trusted adult will help the both of you cope with this situation. Finally, you should suggest to your friends that she speak to her parents about it. It may seem very scary and it is possible that they may be very angry with her at first, but they are her parents and will love her no matter what happens.”
– Sara Maldonado, 22
“Although you feel strongly about abortions being incorrect, you must keep in mind that they are your personal beliefs. Your friend might have other beliefs and also it will also ultimately be her decision to make since it is her body. Remember, that a true friend will respect the opposing beliefs of other friends and offer their love an d support in hard times such as these. Also, be cautious of your word, such as “killing you own child.” These words are harmful and will not help you friends. Instead offer her other choices, but respect whatever decision she makes in the end.” – Liz, 22