Family is family, but every family is different. Some families were raised with two parents, some families might have none. Some families might have no brothers and sisters, and some families might not have a lot of money. And that’s ok.
Every family relationship is different. There is not one way in which a family should be. However, there are certain things that can be done to improve a family dynamic and make the family the best it can be.
One of the things a family can do to make sure the family structure is healthy is to have family dinners together with no television or cell phones. Nowadays, families that still gather around the family table tend to do it while watching television while having one hand on their cellphones and the other hand in their food. Make it a priority to have your parents stop what they are doing, or your younger siblings from playing video games, to gather around the dinner table and bond. This should be done at least once a week, but if possible, should be done once every day.
Another thing a family can do is to have family game nights. Whatever it maybe, have an activity your family can do together. It does not have to be movies! This can be trivia night, or Youtube video watching night, or fishing night. The possibilities are endless! Just find something that all of your family can have fun doing!
If you find that your family might be going through some problems, it is not out of the ordinary. Do not be afraid to bring your concerns to the attention of your parents or guardians. If you think your family is not spending enough time together, tell your family that! If you feel as if your parents have been too busy with work, let them know.
If this does not work for you, do not be afraid to reach out to an adult. It is ok for your family not to be ok. Do not be afraid to talk to a counselor, teacher, or any other person about issues that your family might be going through.
This is especially true when it comes to your friends. While it might seem like your friends will not understand what you are going through, they will certainly try to make the effort to do so. Sometimes, your friends might be like a source of therapy for you. They will always be someone who is willing to listen. Sure, writing in a journal, or keeping your feelings to yourself is a bit more private, but your friends are people who are just like your family – they will love you no matter what.
However, if you truly feel like this might not be something you can do, evoke your emotions into a story or poetry. Sometimes letting all your emotions out bring out a new set of emotions that can result in the creation of a beautiful painting or an amazing new song. If this feels uncomfortable to you though, sports are another source of therapy. Being around a group of people who are all passionate about something can provide an even bigger place for you to let out all your emotions.
Whatever the case may be, know that you are not alone. Your family is someone who will always love you, no matter how hard that might be to believe at times. Do not take advantage of them and try to work through all the kinks in your family relationship because when you are finally able to do so, your family relationship will be incredible.