Book Review: Dear Bully

Dear Bully is a book by Megan Kelley Hall & Carrie Jones. This book was inspired by a tragic event that happened on January 14, 2010 related to bullying.  That year in Massachusetts (hometown of the author of the book) a girl name Phoebe Prince committed suicide after months of being bullied by nine students of South Hadley High School. When this news came out, Megan Kelley was shocked to see how far all this bullying has gone. She decided to bring different authors together and tell their stories about how they were bullied, being a bully or witness bullying.

This book speaks for itself. Megan Kelley and Carrie Jones wrote an amazing book that is full of emotional, interesting, sad, and shocking stories about bulling. The 70 authors in this book have shared their stories; some are heartbreaking, others are more uplifting. This book makes you feel stronger the more you read it.

There are a lot of different stories that will shock you and even make you feel bad for that person. This book has stories not only about girls, but guys as well that were bullied when they were younger.

The story from Marlene Perez is kind of similar to the Mean Girls movie. One day she found one of her friend’s books, forgotten at the school gym.  It was called a “slam book” and it was filled with people talking about other people (including her). When she opened it, she found out that a lot of people were talking about her and making things up. What hurt her most was when she recognized the handwriting of her “friend” in that book talking about how she had big boobs, but such a small brain. She felt hurt and betrayed to see how this person whom she thought was her friend showed her true colors. Marlene couldn’t stop thinking of how she thought they were friends but in reality, weren’t. When her friend came, she had a look of panic on her face. Marlene asked if she lost something, but she said she didn’t. Marlene then said, “Yeah, I thought I lost something, too, turns out I never even had it!”

There’s also stories like Grace, where she thought love existed. This story tells how Grace faced the fake side of what she thought was her love. Gabe was her boyfriend of over 8 months; they spent pretty much all their time together at her house playing, laughing, and taking sexy pictures of themselves with their phones to send them to each other when they were away. She was away on a trip with her parents when she started seeing pictures of her boyfriend with other girls at parties. A couple of days passed and Gabe wasn’t answering her text messages; girls who appeared on the pictures with him started friend requesting Grace on Facebook and posting really mean words on her wall such as “fat,” “ugly,” and “skank.” These girls were saying they saw her naked pictures in her boyfriend’s phone. She was sad and couldn’t stop crying; she hated herself for everything. All she could think was, “I can’t believe that I trusted stupidly in Gabe.”

Stories like these can be similar to events that we may be living through this moment. This book is perfect for someone who is being bullied, being the bully, or a witness. Young people and adults need to read Dear Bully because it actually teaches a lot about the subject. This book shows that you are not alone, that there are people out there who you can turn to for help and that you should not let yourself down.  It’s a very powerful book that will have anyone who reads it wondering how they can get help.

Dear Bully captures the stories of 70 famous authors.  These people were bullied and survived to become successful people now. Their traumatic bulling experiences are left behind, but they made them who they are today. If they became successful after their bullying experience, then others can learn from this and overcome their obstacles as well.  Bullying happens because we see others as more powerful than we are.  There is something stronger than any punch in the face; a rumor or being called a name can sting just as badly. Your voice can help you stop a bully.  Speak loudly, stand up for yourself, encourage yourself to be brave and don’t let anyone bring you down.

5 Ways to Deal with Stress

Latinitas readers share their tips to destress.

Tip 1: Listen to Music

“Music is love. Every song has a meaning that you can relate to at any time or how you feel. Music is a big part of my releasing stress.”-Daisy Fuentes.

“I usually listen to music to calm me down.  I like music because I think it just relaxes me.” – Dalena Lopez

“I usually do on my roof and listen to music the air always calms me down and the beat to the music helps my feelings calm.” -Aliris Lopez

Tip 2: Hangout with friends

“I love going to my best friend/sister named: Daisy. I love to hangout with my family.” – Jessie Baron

Tip 3. Talk to your Parents

“When I’m stressed, what calms me down is to always be around my mom. She helps me calm down.”

“When I deal with stress, I usually go to talk to my mom because she always knows all the right things to say to me.”-Dominic Hernandez

“When I talk to my mom, it gets a big weight off my shoulders and helps me know I’m not alone in my problems.” -Brianna Holcomb

Tip 4. Exercise

“Dancing, is like if your soul is letting out your true colors. The way you feel comes out on the way you move, attitude, silliness and heart. Running for me is a time to cry, think and let it out. It’s an alone time to just think about what has happen.”- Daisy Fuentes.

Tip 5. Do What You Love

“I pray and just think on it.”- Brianna Holcomb

“Singing helps me let out my feelings.”-Daisy Fuentes.

“I go to do puzzles.”-Monica Vargas

“I sing, dance, write or just chill with my friends.” -Jessie Baron

Angel Looking Over You

 

Bang! In a moment, you can loose a very important person who has been in your life since you were born. Cynthia, age 18,

experienced this firsthand when her father committed suicide. Losing her dad impacted her life, and it is an experience she would never wish to anyone. It feels like the darkness overshadows your life, or you think you are being punished for something you did wrong.

You feel pain, anger, guilt and of course a deep sadness. You feel in shock and denial. It is a mix of feelings crashing into one another. You keep asking your self WHY? This is the hardest question to answer when some one dies, but the proper person to answer it is the person who died.

For a year and half, Cynthia has faced one of the hardest moments of her life. An ordinary but cold evening while she was in her room, the sound of her brother shouting and crying his soul out scared her like never before. With no clue of what had happened, she was scared. The police, and the ambulance showed up and then that was when she found out that sadly her father committed suicide.

“I felt confused, I couldn’t believe it was true. It was shocking, I didn’t know what to do.” Cynthia said.

A loss this big is very painful, sad and unforgettable because never in million years can you picture yourself in this position.

“Its very hard to imagine something like this can happen to you, until it happens. You feel a big shock, you feel like throwing up, like at any moment you will wake up and cry all at the same time.” she said. Can you imagine going through those kind of events? It  can be very hard for some people to deal with this kind of pain. It is not easy to forget someone so special for you.

“I prayed for my dad, and for strength. This is not something that you get used to, but you just have to learn how to live with it.” she revealed. She told me how hard was at first for her and her family. The first month was the hardest, and saddest for her. The fact that your need to get use to the fact that you will never see that person makes things harder for you. It’s normal that things like this will not go away so fast, it takes a long time, and is never easy going through a healing moment.

Help from the people around you can make things a little less harder, because they will be with you every step of the way. An event like this can not be dealt with by yourself, it is hard. It is very heavy for you to hold on your shoulder.

“What helped me the most was the support from my family, friends, and my own strength. I didn’t want to see my mom down so I had to be positive for her and for my big brother.” Cynthia said. Although this experience didn’t affect her school work or her relationships, there’s still that sad feeling. She commented that it still hurts, mainly when she remembers him or sees other parents that remember her how he used to be it makes her almost cry. Who wouldn’t? It is your father, the guy who gave you life. “There’s not a day where I don’t think of him, I miss him but I have been able to keep on going with my life. I would say that the most important comes from you and how you can handle things.”

She knows this is not an easy event for any girl to deal with. Her experience can be reflected in other girls that have been through this. She knows she is not alone and neither are you. “Don’t let yourself fall, be strong for those who love you, and for that person that is gone. He/she wouldn’t like to see you down.” She gave us (who?) her own advice that she took so that the pain would be easier to deal with. She lost her father, her friend, her protector, her hero. She lost the person that was made to take care of her and her siblings. Yet even though that person is not with them physically she and her siblings know that he is he will always protect them and look after their well being. Although they had hoped that he would be alive to see them achieve their dreams and goals like graduating from high school and say “here dad, this diploma is for you; So that you can feel more proud of me!”and also seeing them get married and meeting his grand children, they know some how he is here.

Going through this experience has taught her so much about life, family, and herself. “This make me reflect that you never know when it’s going to be the last time you will see someone and from then I don’t like to be mad at no one.” Although it never mattered to her what he did, she will never be mad at him for that. He will always be the good father and always was been. All that is left are the good memories she shared with her father.

“I love you and please forgive me for those times when I yell at you and even offended you. Day by day I try to be the best daughter for my mom like you always wanted me to be. I LOVE YOU!”

 

Embarrassing Moments

I was putting gas in my car and as I was going into my car to wait for it to pump. I stepped over the gas pump but my second leg didn’t make it. I tripped and fell on my face.- Monica

In my basketball game, my friend pulled down my shorts when I was shooting a free throw.- Unknown

During the Hispanic Student Association meeting, I was called to the stage to rap as an icebreaker.- Lily

Its sort of embarrassing. In my Spanish class, I finally got the courage to ask the guy I like for his number. When I turned around and asked him, he told me he didn’t have a phone.- Unknown

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